Sunday, February 01, 2009

At the risk of being totally embarrassed, I guess I just need to get it all out in the open. I have been struggling with my weight for years, yo-yoing up and down. Right now I am the heaviest I have EVER been and I hate it. Just 5 years that seems like such a LONG time ago, I had lost a ton of weight and I was perfectly happy with the size I was at. Slowly the weight started creeping up, and a year later I had gained it all back plus more. I got pregnant and almost lost all the pregnancy weight...but I gained it all back.

So now, almost three years after I delivered my last child, I have gained all the pregnancy weight back. I hate it. I hate being fat. I hate seeing what I see in the mirror each day. I hate not feeling sexy. I hate not feeling pretty. I hate feeling embarrassed. I hate ill-fitting clothes and shopping at plus size stores. I hate that I have to constantly feel like I am adjusting my clothes to make sure they're hanging right and not emphasizing that tire around my stomach.

I hate that Old Navy only sells their plus size stuff online, so if I want to buy anything, I have to buy it sight-unseen and hope it fits. Lane Bryant plus size clothes are only "ok", I don't care for a lot of them. I only own a few pairs of jeans that fit well, and two are slightly tight. I wear the same style shirts every day, because I go with what looks even slightly slimming.

Most of all, I hate myself. I hate the fact that I just can't control my diet. I see people losing weight so easily and it just pours off them, and that just makes me more depressed. I can exercise and exercise all i want, but I don't lose weight. Because I can't diet.

Honestly though, it's not my eating that is the problem. My normal diet is fine, though I could use more fruits and veggies. I eat moderately during the day. Usually I start off with a bowl of Quaker oatmeal squares, or a banana/yogurt, a glass of milk etc. Today I had homemade bran muffins with a glass of milk. Two small muffins and one glass of milk and I am satisfied. The problem lies within my addiction to sweets. I can't seem to controll my sweet tooth. I am literally addicted to sugar. I eat normally other than that.

This summer we're going to visit my family, and I don't even want anyone to come to the Lake with us because I don't want anyone I know to see me in a bathing suit. Ever wonder why I didn't make more of an effort to go to my highschool reunion? I was too embarrassed.

Being a food addict is AWFUL. Do you know how hard it is be addicted to sugar? It's like a drug. I can't seem to not have sweets in the house. Yet everytime I'm at Wal Mart, or Safeway or Target, and I find myself picking up a bag or two of m&ms, or some mini 3 musketeers candy bars, I get even more depressed. It's a vicious cycle. Fat -> Depressed -> Buy more candy/junk food -> more depressed -> buy more -> eat more. See what I mean? I wish I could go to Fat camp.

I've given myself 1.5 years to lose all the weight. I want to lose it all by my 30th birthday July 2010. But I just can't seem to get moving. I like how I feel when I go to the gym, I feel empowered and proud of myself. Then I come home and have a brownie. I wish there was a magic pill I could take to help me over this. I've thought about lap-band surgery, but that won't help me. Have that surgery won't stop my sugar addiction, I have to over come it myself.

I just don't know how. Monday turns into tuesday, into wednesday and so on. I just need to suck it up and just DO IT.

But how? how do I get over this addiction? Like I said earlier, I just don't know how.


Miss Mommy said...

The best advice I could give you is start excercising. ...if only just a few times a week for 30 minutes each time. It's something I promise after a few weeks of getting into the routine of working out you will start to feel great. And when you miss a day...your body will feel tired, and you will feel like your only cheating yourself.

I too love sweets...and I do not totally avoid them altogether....Life is supposed to be fun, right?? I just limit moderation. I try not to keep any sweets in the house. If it's there I will eat it...LOL LOL

I started working out after my last baby almost 2 years ago. I do Walk Away the Pounds by Leslie Sansone 5 days a week now. It was in gradual the beginning it was just 2 days a week.

Find a form of exercise that you enjoy, whether it be walking, running, treadmill, Wii Fit, etc. and get on your way to becoming a happier you!! Having a hubby or partner in excercising is a BIG help as well. This was when you have an off day someone is there to give you a push to workout!!

It is the least you can do for yourself, for your family. You can do it!! I know you can!!

Best of luck!! Keep us all posted!!

KrustyTheCat said...

Actually, I do exercise. That isn't the problem, lol. I am just maintaining my weight when I go to the gym, so I need to completely eliminate the sweets. that is the problem...other than that, my diet is ok. I usually go to the gym 3 times a week for an hour.

I do like Leslie Sansone, I have TONS of her dvds from years ago when i didn't have a gym membership, so perhaps I should dust those off as well as go to the gym.

Thanks!!! ;o)

Mama Bear said...

It's hard to lose weight when all you want to do when depressed about the weight, is snack...I hear ya.

I keep a bar of good quality dark chocolate in the house and that's it - I allow myself a square or two a day and that's it.

Maybe try limiting yourself, I mean really limiting yourself...keep only a small amount of sweets in the house and allow yourself a piece a day, cut it into little morsels if you have to to make it last?

I wish there was a magic pill too. Hehehe.

Danna said...

I can sooooo relate to this entry! I also am the heaviest I've ever been. It is quite depressing. I too wish there was a magic pill too...(whoever DOES accomplish this would be soooo rich!)

I have only chocolate in the house for that certain monthly visitor but other than that I have to try my hardest to not even snack off of Chelsea's snack/leftovers. Yes! I am terrible! I also have a no will power when it comes to potato chips. That is why I don't buy them...or only have them when I know that we are having company or a get together. I'm sorry as I probably am no help but I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone!

Brooke said...

*hugs* i'm sorry! i struggle with body issues, but it always breaks my heart to see other women have the same problem "don't they see how beautiful/incredible they are?"