tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2393993308609569414.post6818579748345702877..comments2023-09-01T02:28:25.442-07:00Comments on One Krusty Mama: Letting Go And Moving OnJoanna http://www.blogger.com/profile/12585040397232827208noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2393993308609569414.post-22044396216854234362010-10-28T18:40:59.973-07:002010-10-28T18:40:59.973-07:00Wanting to declutter is not disrespectful to his m...Wanting to declutter is not disrespectful to his memory, and you need to do what's healthiest for your sanity! Here are my suggestions:<br /><br />1. Roses: Photograph them alone, and then maybe with each of you and your kids holding one of them. Then, do something ceremonious with them. Take them to one of Barry's favorite places and rip the petals off and throw them around.<br /><br />2. Tree: Donate to a women's shelter or somewhere else where it can be enjoyed and bring happiness to others.<br /><br />3. Bed: I don't think you should keep it or get rid of it. I think you should find a local craftsman or carpenter and see if s/he can do something else with the wood. Maybe they could make you a cool piece of wall art? Or a little bench? Something that takes up less space and can be useful or decorative, and then you can still look at it and have all of the memories.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17692268074814306795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2393993308609569414.post-81335544122849296342010-10-27T21:04:36.035-07:002010-10-27T21:04:36.035-07:00If it were me, I would photograph the roses and pu...If it were me, I would photograph the roses and put the picture in the memoir books I know you've probably got going.<br /><br />The tree - if its still in reasonable shape, donate it to a thrift store or family shelter. I don't mean to sound so blase about it but when you look at it, what's the first thing you think of? The impression I'm getting from your post is that its a pain in the butt to set up, decorate and store - yes, it has so many good memories for you and the kids but I'm sure you have oodles of pictures of it, and you shouldn't keep it around if it adds to your stress level. I like the pre lit tree idea.<br /><br />The bed. That's a tough one. If you aren't using it (you aren't, right? You bought a new set?), I would store it in case one of the kids wants or needs it one day. You know how poor young adults can be when they're moving out on their own for the first time, or first married...it would be a tremendous gift to give them the bed that their Mom and Dad shared. At least, I'd think so.<br /><br />This is all so hard, I can't even imagine...but if these things are stressing you out and causing you pain, don't feel bad about dealing with them how you see fit. <br /><br />*hugs*Rinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13209460847141125783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2393993308609569414.post-45127468071691911822010-10-27T18:26:09.592-07:002010-10-27T18:26:09.592-07:00If u want to keep them, keep them..are they taking...If u want to keep them, keep them..are they taking up that much room? I use to keep my husband's urn out ( in my bedroom) 5 years ago, one day I just decided to put it away in the drawer of my nightstand...a sign of moving on does not mean u get rid of or put away.. to me its all in your actions- whether u are happy, doing new things,etc.Kalei's Best Friendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12331539743751163269noreply@blogger.com